There are lots of situations these days that we hear the blame game being used as a reason for why things didn't turn out as the "blamer" expected.
- The bank never should have lent me the money for a house I could not afford
- The Home Equity Loan was too much stress on our budget, we should never have been approved
- The Realtor "made me" pay the asking price and now I can't re-coup my investment
- If I had known my spouse wanted ______________I would never have married him/her
- My broker is all about the Broker....where is the training/education/technology I am paying for to succeed ?
- I would never have taken that job if I knew the company wasn't financially sound
Instead of worrying about who to blame...why anyone voted for...being angry, getting frustrated, why not just think...You made the best decision you could make with the information you had at the time. Now...Move on with an open mind....and know that there is resolution to the situation.
- Can you do a loan modification that would make payments more manageable
- How can you best reduce your home equity loan payment; reduce expenses, find ways to add income (they are out there of you look)
- The realtor (we hope) gave you the best information there was at the time...and that may have meant writing a competitive offer for the house you loved
- People change, situations change...seek counseling if you are willing to invest more of yourself i the relationship...if not, See a divorce attormeya nd get on with your life
- Your Broker is in business to make money...how it's done may be at YOUR expense...be open to other business models...you may be pleasantly surprised
- Not every company is prepared to handle a drastic downturn in business...You found the best job then and you will again...no company was built on the premise that they wanted to fail.
Be open to change...it may not be comfortable at first...sticking to the "same old" is comfortable even if it is not "comforting"....Widen your horizons...keep your mind open and attitude up...You'll be surprised at the results !
Having an open mind is one of the only ways to make it in this world anymore. And the blame game gets tiresome, you just use enrgy with negativity, and have none left for the positive thinking that we all need.
Good point Ian....blame DOES take energy and it takes it away from what we need to THRIVE /...not just Survive !
When you concentrate on what coulda been, you lose the foresight to looking ahead. It's hard sometimes to not look back but you have to.
It seems that no one these days wants to accept responsibility...buck up people. Was it Flip Wilson that used to say "The devil made me do it"
Yes Jackie...there are always the "coulda woulda shoulda" folks...onward and upward !
Hey Laura Flip is a favorite....that Devil takes the rapp for everything...sooo much easier than being responsible !
I'm afraid we are going to get another three years of the blame game before an adult takes on a certain leadership role again...
--whoops Jay...you're playing....! One person doesn't really control the world...
What? There is a world FULL of finger pointers!
GOOD MORNING SALLY & DAVID! This begins so early in life - whenever I hear kids I work with attempt the "he started it...it's her fault...she said this first.." game - everything stops and the "blame game" gets fixed on the stop! Hopefully it will make an impact later in life on these kids. -- Gab
People behave the way you allow them to...it can't ALWAYS be someone else's fault..learning to take responsibility at an early age is a tremendous asset in becoming a mature adult.
Hence my comment in post #6!
Sometimes in these times Jennifer...when you try to consolidate things for more than they are worth in today's market...consolidation is not possible.